I love it when I hear something that makes me stop and think.
I love it when I read something that makes me reflect and ponder.
The difference between fitting in and belonging is
that fitting in requires you to become who others want you to be;
belonging is bringing your whole self and being accepted as you.
~ Brené Brown
Her beautiful words made me think of all the times I’ve been trying to fit in, living up to the expectations of others – real or imagined.
Yesterday evening, as I was removing my contact lenses in front of the bathroom mirror, it struck me.
How I was trying to fit in.
Even with such a simple, plain, small, ordinary thing as removing my lenses.
With no-one watching. No-one judging. No-one keeping score.
You see, I have developed this awkward, inelegant, eyes half closed, but “hey, I can quickly remove my lenses like this” way of removing my lenses.
Yet, I found myself not doing it that way.
Yet, I found myself struggling to remove my lenses.
Yet, I found myself trying to do it the “official” way.
The way the lovely lady at the optician’s taught me.
The way “it should be done”. The way “everybody does it”.
As I got teary-eyed, with the contact lens still firmly holding onto my eye, it hit me.
What the heck am I doing?
Who cares if I do it the “official” way or not?
I found a way that works for me.
Agreed, it is not the most elegant way.
But it is a way that works brilliantly. Every time I do it. Quick and smooth. Not a tear shed.
My way works like a charm.
So why struggle to do it any other way?
Where are you trying to fit in? Where are you abandoning your way to do it the “official” way?
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