The truth is that we made mistakes.

The truth is that we will make mistakes.

Often we beat ourselves up. 

I should have known better.

They’ll think I’m not smart enough.

They’ll think I’m not bright and intelligent.

They’ll think I’m not worthy of doing this work.

This will be the end of my career.

I am not bright and intelligent. 

I am so stupid.

I am a failure.

And we feel horrible.

And we are not focused on the job at hand.  And we make another mistake.  We disconnect from the meeting we’re in.  We hide.  We don’t speak up.  We don’t volunteer to take on that project.  We beat ourselves up and judge ourselves harshly.  We are distracted and make another mistake

And we stop growing.  And we stop interacting.  And we stop learning.

The fascinating thing is that we think that beating ourselves up will help us not to make mistakes anymore.  The fascinating thing is that we believe that these draining thoughts will help us to perform better.  The fascinating thing is that we believe that letting go of these draining thoughts will make us unmotivated and bad performers.

Even though our actions are telling us differently.

Even though our actions are telling us that holding on to these thoughts is making us unmotivated and bad performers.  Even though our actions are telling us that holding on to these thoughts is distracting us and is making us make more mistakes.  Even though our actions are telling us that holding on to these thoughts is making us hide and disconnect.

So how about taking a different approach to mistakes? 

Beating myself up when I make a mistake will not un-do the mistake.

I am bright and intelligent and making mistakes is just part of life.

Doing things and living includes making mistakes.

Making mistakes will make me even more bright and intelligent.

Being bright and intelligent is not beating myself up when I make a mistake.

Being bright and intelligent is making mistakes, owning them, learning from them and moving on.

Being bright and intelligent is thriving thanks to the mistakes I make.

What difference would these thoughts make in your life?

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