Okay.  So, my thoughts determine how I feel.  And right now, I hate my job.  And I feel like crap.

So I just change “I hate my job” into “I love my job.” and repeat that to myself 10,000 times a day.

Done.  Problem solved.

Right?

Well, no – this is not how it works.

Doing thought work is not just mechanically plugging in any other thought.  Trying to make yourself believe you love your job while you don’t, is only going to make you feel more miserable.  It’s like saying to yourself “I love my job [official mantra voice]  … not [running commentary voice]“.  10,000 times a day.

Doing thought work is not forcing yourself to love your job.  It’s not pretending you like your job.  It’s not acting as if you like it.

Doing thought work is being honest with yourself. 

Doing thought work is exploring.  Exploring why you hate your job.  Exploring what you hate about your job. 

Maybe you hate your job because you think your colleagues don’t like you.  Maybe you hate your job because you think your boss doesn’t appreciate you.

Maybe you hate your job because you think you are not good enough.  Maybe you hate your job because you think others are so much better than you are.

Maybe you hate your job as because you genuinely don’t like working with numbers.  Maybe you hate your job because you genuinely hate all these detailed calculations.

Maybe you hate your job because you work irregular hours and your family complains about you being absent.  Maybe you hate your job because you want spend more time with your family.

Maybe you hate your job because your colleague got promoted and you didn’t.

Maybe you hate your job because you made a mistake in that report and got a bad review from your client.

Maybe you hate your job because you love teaching, but don’t get any opportunity to do so at your job.  Maybe you hate your job because you love managing people and problem solving, but you get to make dull reports instead.

Notice how different these reasons are.  Notice how many of these reasons are not even about the job content itself. 

Doing thought work is exploring what you love about your job.  Exploring why you are in that job when you hate it.  Exploring what you think your ideal job will bring into your life.  Exploring what staying in your job is bringing you right now.

Doing thought work is exploring different perspectives.  Exploring other views on the same circumstance.  Exploring different frames to look at the same thing.  Exploring various ways in which you can respond to the same thing going on in your life.

Doing thought work is choosing a perspective that empowers you.  A view that helps you learn and grow.  A frame that makes you feel peaceful and abundant.  A response that makes you more of the vibrant, dynamic personality that you are.

Doing thought work is finding your truth. 

Doing thought work is looking at one thought at a time.  Doing thought work is doing the work on a piece of paper without taking any action in the outside world yet.

Maybe you’ll decide that changing jobs is the best solution for you.  Maybe you’ll decide that staying in your job is what you really want to do.  Maybe you’ll decide that setting boundaries in your current job is what you need.  Maybe you’ll discuss your teaching options with your boss or you create teaching opportunities yourself.

But you’ll only be able to make that decision when the thought fog in your head has cleared

And you are the only one who can clear it.

 

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