Yeah, we’re fine.

Yeah, we’re good.

No, it’s not such a big deal.

Nah, we’re ok.

 

And so we dismiss how we really feel.

Just a couple of words.

Spoken time and again.

Chanted to ourselves over and over.

 

Yeah, we’re fine.

Yeah, we’re good.

No, it’s not such a big deal.

Nah, we’re ok.

 

And so we pretend we’re fine.

In an attempt to regain our happiness.

The fast way.

The seemingly obvious way.

 

Right?

 

Yet, when we’re being honest with ourselves

we still don’t feel fine,

we still don’t feel good,

it seems to be a big deal,

we’re not feeling ok.

 

Our discomfort.

Our anger.

Our sadness.

Our frustration.

Our low energy.

 

Still there.

Nagging.

Persistent.

Trying to get our attention.

 

Don’t push them away.

Even when you tell yourself

you’re not supposed to feel that way.

Don’t push them away.

Especially when you tell yourself

you shouldn’t feel that way.

 

Feelings are not good or bad.

They just are.

For a reason.

 

They are us

trying to get our attention.

 

Listen.

There’s wisdom to be found in there.

 

Are you listening to how you feel?

What are your feelings telling you?


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6 Responses to A sure-fire way not to be happy. (Yet, that’s exactly what we often do.)

  1. This is so true. Our emotions exist to point us towards happiness (and away from the things that don’t feed out souls), but sometimes it is so much easier to just ignore them. But in the long run, it’s just hiding from ourselves and from our happiness.

    • An says:

      Yes, absolutely, Joanna. And even just the act of being honest with ourselves about how we really feel, can be so liberating and freeing. And from that truthful place, we can explore why we feel the way we do and shift our perspective and actions.

  2. Lenny says:

    This is so true and recognizable!
    Reading this was like looking in the mirror!!
    Great words!!
    Totally love this post!

  3. Sarah Yost says:

    I love this. I think feelings are such an important thing. I poo-pooed them for a long time because I thought we should ignore them and just do the right thing anyway.

    But now I believe that we should make them mean anything, but it’s really helpful to acknowledge and listen to them. They are not the boogeyman, nor are they facts.

    • An says:

      “I poo-pooed them for a long time because I thought we should ignore them and just do the right thing anyway.” That sounds so familiar, Sarah! Been in that same place for a long time too – feelings were just annoying distractions that should be ignored and bulldozed over. But of course, I learned that it doesn’t work that way and that feelings are important not-to-be-ignored pointers to what’s really going on for me and where I’m living in/out of sink with who I really am.

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