“No, I don’t wanna look silly,” she said as we were discussing buying an iPhone over delicious Thai noodles and a glass of crisp white wine.

“I mean, everybody knows all these things about iPhones and stuff and I haven’t got a clue how it works.  I’m not gonna go into a store and ask silly questions about getting an iPhone.  They’ll think I’m a pathetic loser.”

She sipped from her glass of wine.

“But in the meantime, I still don’t know what to do.  I’ve been brooding about getting an iPhone for months now and still haven’t decided yet,”  she sighed.

Isn’t that all too familiar?

How often have we not been in that place of “I don’t know the answer, but I don’t wanna ask the question because I don’t wanna look silly.”

But the real silly thing is that – by doing that – we are keeping ourselves stuck.

Brooding.  Desperate and unhappy in that place of not knowing.  And getting mad at ourselves for being stuck there.

And the fascinating thing is that we are suffering without even having reached out.  Without even having asked that so-called silly question.

We are not suffering because we asked the silly question.

We are suffering because we didn’t.

What if asking that silly question is actually a smart and savvy thing to do?

Because we wanna know the answer.

Because we wanna take that answer and learn from it.

Because we wanna grow and move on.

Because we are the ones that need that knowledge to build on it.

Because we are the ones that need that answer to work with it.

Because we are the ones that need that insight to do our thing in the world.

Because we wanna respect ourselves.

Because we wanna take care of ourselves.

Because we wanna take responsibility for our life.

And that means getting answers to things we just haven’t figured out yet.

And that means asking the questions we would love to get an answer to.

And that means getting the answers where they can be found.

And from that place of responsibility, there are no silly questions.

Just questions.

That are worth asking.

Because we are worth the answer.


This post was inspired by a real conversation a couple of weeks ago.


Photo from here.



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