Sometimes we think we need to agree with them.

Have the same opinion.

Appreciate the same things.

Dislike the same stuff.


Because we believe that they’ll stop liking us if we don’t.

Because we believe that they’ll think less of us.

Because we believe that they’ll think we’re not as smart, as interesting, as funny as they thought we were.

Because we believe that they’ll cut us out of their lives.


And so we agree.


We force ourselves to see things the same way (and dismiss our own views).

We justify why they are right (and we are wrong).

We work hard to find beauty in things we don’t really like.

And to ditch the stuff we really love.


And so while we agree on the outside,

we feel constrained on the inside.





Shackles on.


Because while we are working hard to fit in,

we are fitting out of ourselves.


Value your opinion.

It’s worth as much as theirs.

Even when they frown.

Even when they disagree.


Honor what you love and what you don’t.

Those are your keys to your fulfilling life.

Not theirs.


Share your view.

Do your thing.

Always respectfully.

Always with determination.


They’ve got their opinion.  You’ve got yours.

They do their thing.  You do yours.

They are them.  You are you.

Both equally worthy.


So treat yourself accordingly.

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4 Responses to Why I don’t agree with them. (And you shouldn’t either.)

  1. Lenny says:

    Nicely written!
    What I’ll keep in mind: “do “your thing”, with determination! 🙂 🙂
    “having your own opinion is important, even when others don’t agree”
    Totally love: “Honor what you love and what you don’t”.

  2. Lenny says:

    BTW…. GORGEOUS picture!!! wow!!

    • An says:

      Yeah, loving it too! Found it via Pinterest – there’s so many beautiful pictures there! And so you start looking for 1 picture, but before you know it, you’ve spent an hour on Pinterest 🙂

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