There’s something very addictive about people pleasing.
It’s a thought pattern and a habit that feels really, really good until it becomes desperate.
~ Anne Hathaway
What will they think?
Will they like it? Approve?
Will they think I’ve gone crazy? That I’m boring, stupid and silly?
Will they think it’s good enough? Will they think I’m good enough?
They won’t like it. They’ll disapprove.
They’ll think I’m losing it. That I’m boring, stupid and silly.
They’ll think it’s no good. They’ll think I’m not good enough.
And then we feel small, lacking, incompetent, insecure.
We work hard to figure out what they expect us to be.
We work hard at complying with all the explicit and implicit should’s and should not’s.
We work hard at being the perfect version of who we think we’re supposed to be.
Liking the right music. Reading the right books.
Proposing the right idea. Shutting up when we’re not sure they’re gonna like it.
Hiding our crazy dreams. Shelving our passions, strenghts and contagious laughter.
Chasing the dreams that others hold for us.
Feeling lost, drained, uninspired, resentful, sad.
to refocus on
our beautiful-yet-often-hidden-because-we-think-it’s-not-good-enough-to-let-it-show selves.
1) What will they think? That’s the question we do not cease to ask. Find out here what key question we often forget to ask.
2) This is what happens when we think about them and forget about ourselves.
3) Here’s an empowering alternative for our long list of shoulds. Give it a go and you’ll be amazed at how this little change has a profound impact on how you experience life.
4) Afraid of upsetting someone? Find out here why upsetting someone could be exactly what you need.
5) A heartfelt ode to disagreeing and doing your thing.
6) Waiting for their approval? Here’s why that’s not needed.
7) The liberating truth about being judged, criticized and blamed.
Our job in this life is not to shape ourselves into some ideal we imagine we ought to be,
but to find out who we already are and become it.
~ Steven Pressfield
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